Doniree wrote this awesome post about how she started living the life SHE wanted.
I was going to write a post about how I need to make time to take time for me. But, that’s for later.
Instead, I will talk about a huge issue that I have.
I have an anger issue. And it can (and has) gotten bad.
I have Type A tendency’s. I’m demanding and bossy and want to you see things MY way.
Yeah, like that ever works.
I know these things about myself, and I am trying like mad to correct them.
I don’t want people to see me as The Bitch (which I think a lot of people do).
My anger really comes out when people talk bad about things that I love. Take today for example. In case you don’t know, this terribleawufulnogoodthing happened. I understand why it happened. Someone I am friends with on Twitter commented that American football was lame. That really got to me. I know it shouldn’t have but it did. I just wish people would put ‘I think’ or ‘In my opinion’. Because, in my opinion, American football is NOT lame. I’ve gotten into fights with my parents and PJ over football games. It’s just not a pretty picture. Few other things. It really annoys me when people tell me to calm down. You don’t think I know that? I get more angry for you saying things like that then actually letting me get through my anger and calming down on my own. It also really gets to me when people tell that others are “really turned off by that”. Ya don’t say? Wow….I never knew that. Why do you think I wrote this post? I need your help. Books, methods, ANYTHING!
So, here I am, telling you that this bossy, demanding, Type A personality needs help. Give me all that you have!
I might also note that I am loving, loyal, caring, wonderful and pretty damn awesome. Because this can’t be all bad, right?
You sound exactly like me! Especially the part about hating when people try to calm you down. I understand that I tend to get riled up about things and typically I just have to go through the motions before I can come down again. I can’t just ‘make’ myself stop being angry. I’ve got to ride the wave or it will just come out again eventually. I’m also trying to work on it, but it’s hard!
Yeah, when people just tell me to calm down, it makes me even angrier. I was writing this post and could literally feel myself getting angry. I stopped typing, looked at the screen and reminded myself what I was doing.
I didn’t know how to reply, but I figured it out. I’m a brat. I am a full fledged, mean little brat. My anger used to be a lot worse, but now I’m a brat and I think that’s a little worse than your anger. I can totally understand your responses and I’ve been known to respond the same way, but I need at least one person to snap me out of my brattiness. We’re going to be fine, though, because you’re pretty damn awesome.
We’ll make it through. You’re pretty damn awesome yourself!
I get violently angry (only in my head) at someone at least once a day. So, yeah, anger sucks, but I’m glad I’m not the only one with this kind of problem.
We are not alone!
I used to be just like that. I still have set backs but it has really gotten better since it I realized it doesnt do me any good and didn’t want to turn out like my dad. I am type A as well on top of being raised with a dad who needed anger managment. Anytime you want to talk shoot me a message on twitter or email
Thank you! I try to remember that it does me no good but sometimes it just takes over =/
I have anger problems too. I’ve noticed that my anger is because of my anxiety/depression. When I’m really anxious, I’m so angry and mean. My anxiety medicine helps a lot
Yeah, I think meds would help.
What a brave post, lovely. I find I get overwhelmed by not so great feelings sometimes.
I think that recognizing it’s something you want to work on is the first and probably the most important, step.
LOVE YOUR FACE.
Yeah, I get those notsogreat feeling a lot =/
I LOVE YOU FACE! <3
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Stumbled on here from blogess and what a great post. I totally feel the same way about being told to calm down. Probably the worst thing you can do to someone who is already angry is tell them to calm down! That just fuels the fire!
I wish people would just back off and let me cool down the way I want, ya know?