I am my mother’s daughter Wednesday, Sep 18 2013 

I’m catching up on Joy the Baker podcasts  (I know, I know, late to the game). While listening to the Boozy Susan episode, they started talking about what they listen to the kitchen. Tracy said that her mom distracts her from the task at hand when she asks questions that have nothing to do with what going on. She brought up a good point about things that annoyed us when we were younger, we have started to do ourselves. Yup, it’s true.

Case in point, I have the annoying habit of following everyone around and picking up after them. I know this about myself. I’ve tried so hard to not do it, but I just can’t. PJ and I were in the kitchen last night, cleaning up after dinner, when he turns to me and says:

PJ: ‘Thank you for being awesome.’

Me: ‘I’m not awesome.’

PJ ‘Yes, you are. Look at this kitchen. Look at the house. It wouldn’t look like this if you didn’t come behind me and fix everything.’

Me: ‘I know that annoys you and I try not to do it, but my mom did it to me.’

We are more like our parents than we realize. I’ve started to come to terms with this, and I’m ok with it. I’m still me. Take all the good stuff and leave all the bad.

5 Ways to Blast Through Your Fear of Failure Monday, Mar 11 2013 

I have the great pleasure of having Ashley from Your Super Awesome Life guest posting on my blog today!! Check out her advice on blasting through your fear of failure!

When I decided to quit my 9-5 job, move to Canada and launch Your Super Awesome Life as a full-time gig, I was completely terrified. I mean, how could I not be? I was giving up my stability, my financial security, my comfort zone, and my home. I was taking a huge leap with the not-so-set-in-stone plan of figuring it all out on the way down. Learn as you go never felt so real. I knew it was a huge transition, but my heart was completely in it and I had to follow through.

So how did I do it? How did I overcome my fear of failure without having a nervous breakdown?

I trusted my gut and I went for it.

I took a lot of deep breaths.

I focused on what was immediately in front of me so that I wouldn’t be overwhelmed by the chaos of the big picture.

But that doesn’t mean that I didn’t feel stressed out. It doesn’t mean I didn’t cry, I didn’t freak out, and I didn’t question how it would all work out. It just means that I put one foot in front of the other and I kept moving forward.

When you’re taking any kind of risk, it’s normal to feel crazy scared, to question if it’s worth it, and to worry if you’re going to fail. But these risks are what help propel you forward. They are what help you grow. They are what bring your closer to the life you want.

5 ways to blast through your fear of failure:

01. Reframe your fear

Embracing the idea that there is no failure, only lessons, can help you move past this fear. In every experience there is an opportunity for learning and a new adventure. Thomas Edison believed there were 1000 steps to success and 999 of those were “failures”. Yet, he was so intensely committed to his vision, his process, and his work, he was willing to endure 999 uncomfortable steps before hitting the 1000th breakthrough step.

02. Focus on how you want to feel

Instead of setting your attention on your fear, focus on how you want to feel. Do you want to feel successful? Alive? Energized? At peace? Secure? Focusing on these feelings will help you move past your fear and closer toward your desired state.

03. Consider, “What is the worst that could happen?”

If you’re honest with yourself, it’s probably not that bad. Your ego might be bruised, you might be embarrassed and you might feel disappointed, but your life will not be over. You will be able to stand up again and move forward without having regret. Realistically acknowledging the possible outcomes allows you to place some context around your fear so that it is not a wildly nebulous feeling. Now you know  the worst thing that could happen and you can decide if it’s worth it. (Most likely, it is!)

04. Remember, if nothing changes, nothing changes

Being afraid that you might fail is scary. I get it. But if you don’t move past that fear and actually do something, nothing will change. You will not have accomplished that goal, you will not be one step closer to the life you want, and you won’t feel amazingly proud of yourself for doing it in spite of the fear. So why not do it anyway?

05. Ask yourself,”Is this fear or is it excitement?”

Sometimes we think we are feeling fear when it is really excitement disguised as fear. If we haven’t felt genuine excitement in a while, it can easy to forget the feeling of butterflies, sweaty palms, and racing hearts is linked to this positive emotion. Getting clear on whether you’re experience fear or excitement can help you move past your fear of failure.

And if that’s not enough to convince you to take a leap, JK Rowling has some pretty awesome thoughts on failure.

“Some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well have not lived at all, in which case you’ve failed by default.” - JK Rowling

How do you blast through your fear of failure?

Waiting and waiting and waiting some more Friday, Mar 1 2013 

Do you ever just wonder what you are doing here, in this life?

I’ve been thinking about that lately.

How do you know what you are doing is what you are actually meant to be doing?

I don’t think there is an answer for that. Most people will say ‘Ya just know’. A few days ago, I heard someone say that they have always told their kids that life is too short to not do what you love.

But, what if you don’t know what you love to do? Or are good at?

Again, something I’ve been thinking about.

I’m worried that I’m running out of time. For everything.

You can never get it back, time. Just gone.

Time. Waiting. Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Wishing I could get time back but knowing it won’t happen.

Waiting.

KROD January 2013: Top of our playlist Monday, Jan 28 2013 

For this edition of KROD, I have the pleasure of hosting Kanriah :)

Check out her video!!!

Check out the Mater Playlist here!

Wine and Love v67 Friday, Dec 21 2012 

wineo Wine and Love is a weekly series of the good “Love” and bad “Wine” for the week. Participating is simple. Post two lists – one with what’s making us w(h)ine and one all about the love. Link up on Suki’s blog!

Wine:

* I’ve been thinking that it’s a day ahead all week. This made the fact that yesterday was Thursday, and not Friday, a little sad.

* Haven’t been great sleep lately. Have been having really weird dreams.

* We have a busy weekend ahead of us.

Love:

* I’m getting my hair cut tomorrow!!! So excited!!!

* Choir concert last night! It went great! Elaine and PJ came to listen.

* Company Christmas party last night, after the concert. It was really nice getting together outside of work and enjoying each others company. Plus, we got our bonuses! Yay!

* Baking Double Chocolate Peppermint Cookies tonight for holiday parties this weekend!!

* We have wireless at work now! Makes playing games on my phone faster haha.

* I have Monday and Tuesday off :)

Vote for December’s theme! Friday, Dec 21 2012 

Originally posted on Karaoke Ring of Death:

You only have until Saturday so get those votes in!
And spread the word so everyone can have a say.

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Wine and Love v66 Tuesday, Dec 18 2012 

wineoWine and Love is a weekly series of the good “Love” and bad “Wine” for the week. Participating is simple. Post two lists – one with what’s making us w(h)ine and one all about the love.

Wine:

* Having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that we are going to buy a mobile home.

Love:

* I am working my last birthday parties of the year. Can’t wait to see what next year brings for us!

* THE HOBBIT! THE HOBBIT!! THE HOBBIT!!!

* Christmas shopping!

* I managed to keep my poinsettia at my office alive! I’m so proud of myself!

Wine and Love v65 Thursday, Dec 6 2012 

wineo Welcome Wine and Love, a weekly series of the good “Love” and bad “Wine” for the week. Participating is simple. Post two lists – one with what’s making us w(h)ine and one all about the love.

W(h)ine:

* I wish the weather would make up its mind. Just stupid.

Love:

* My friend Sandra is having a little giveaway on her blog. You should check it out. Ends tonight!

* Danielle LaPorte.

* Lighting of the National Christmas tree!

* Christmas cards!! I love sending and receiving mail!

KROD November: Catchy song Tuesday, Dec 4 2012 

Last month (yes, I’m late on posting this), our theme for KROD was ‘catchy songs’.

I have the pleasure of hosting Sandy! Even though I don’t like Taylor Swift, I think these girls do a good job!! Check them out!

Wine and Love v64 Thursday, Nov 29 2012 

wineoWelcome Wine and Love, a weekly series of the good “Love” and bad “Wine” for the week. Participating is simple. Post two lists – one with what’s making us w(h)ine and one all about the love.

W(h)ine:

* One of my best friends lost her job. It sucks but it’s also good for her (I mean, she’s excited for the fist time in a long time so YAY her!)

Love:

* BIG NEWS: PJ AND I ARE ENGAGED!!! There is no ring yet. It is getting made (yes, I am complicated and had to make it difficult- more on that later). Wedding plans and details are still up in the air, but we are aiming for sometime next Autumn :)

* Relaxing weekend ahead!! Woot!!!

* My holiday card for is still up!! GO FILL IT OUT!! You know what want an awesome holiday card from me!! DO IT!!!

* I am taking pictures for the month of December!! You should too!!!

* I am participating the Elf 4 Health Challenge! My goal for this to eat healthier and move more. I am enjoying getting to know my partner! It’s great. You should check it out!!

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